No More Lonely Nights

For working adults, the general mood from Mondays to Thursdays tends to be sombre and pensive. 

Friday nights are a turnaround though and the weekends would be the cause for the celebration.

On a recent Friday night as I walked by some pubs and eateries along Boat Quay and Circular Road, the place was abuzz with people chatting their hearts out. They seemed so carefree and could be overheard pouring out what concerns them or just making merry with laughter at the slightest of triggers.

Yes, it could be due to the weekends, drinks, food or atmosphere. Save for the few loners, the rest of the crowd have at least one companion to interact with. I surmise that it is the self-validation that they are getting from their human listener that makes them happy and free to let loose their feelings of whatever is on their mind.

If they were to chat with a basketball placed in front of them with a drawn face or an autobot on their mobile, the chemistry would be far-cry inferior to human interaction. 

Loneliness is real when we don't have anyone or a good buddy to chat with. A pet such as a dog or cat could offer some respite and distraction from social disassociation. People need people for, inter alia, self-validation  -- they want to be heard and understood, and at a deeper level -- accepted and loved.

If you do not have any family member, relative, colleague, ex-classmate or friend you can relate to meaningfully, don't despair. Practise mindfulness and experience yourself being fully alive and at peace with yourself.

As gleaned from various sources: Go to your favourite chair or place and sit down. You could have some congenial music such as Mozart or jazz playing in the background. Lift up your hands or place them on your thighs. 

Then, take a deep breadth and feel the air filling up your lungs fully, and then exhale. Repeat a few more times and you will find refreshing to your mind and pivot with new thoughts or ideas. 

Corollary to this state of relaxation, you are now in a good place of being still and getting in touch with your inner self and opening the gateway to the Creator of this universe -- God Himself. In Him you will find the purpose and meaning of your life beyond what can be found through human interaction alone.

People will come and go in your life as you journey from one station to another over the times and seasons of life. But, when you are in touch with your inner person and your Creator, you would no longer feel lonely and listless.

At the end of each day, every person would be alone and there would not be another human around. To find the solace of inner peace, everyone needs to be in touch with his or her inner self and make space for communion with God.

Even when you are alone at Christmas, which is the most wonderful time of the year, you will feel okay as you can overcome loneliness and despondency by being still and connecting with your inner self and God Himself.

Have a Merry Christmas and Wonderful New Year!

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