How to Have a Lasting Marriage

Is your marriage built to last? That depends on the premise on which it was started.

Whether you got married on a reality TV show or on the quiet in Invercargill, your marriage is only as strong as the reasons by which you got married to your spouse.

If you got married out of desperation to get out of the house by taking the first available flight without due diligence, you might have to adapt a lot in order to survive the marriage.

If you marry for her wealth alone, then it would be challenging when the wealth diminishes.

If you marry him because you are blinded by his chiseled looks (think Superman), go figure whether you will still stand by him when he become an old man.

If marriage is a contract, then both parties will see to it that the terms are fulfilled in order to sustain the marriage.

By the way this is an essential digression in our interconnected world, that if you are attracted to an exotic foreigner please be sure to visit his or her home country before you fall in love. Otherwise, it might be a case of too little and too late when you discover that there are so many others who look just like your person of interest. Better be forewarned than sorry!

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For a marriage to last, both parties must stay committed to the covenant of instituting a marriage as encapsulated in a typical vow such as the following:

I, ____, take you, ____, to be my (husband/wife). I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health. I will love you and honour you all the days of my life.

I, ____, take you, ____, to be my wife (or husband), to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part, according to God's holy law, and this is my solemn vow.

 

A marriage is built to last when the two imperfect parties to a marriage stick to their covenant of love, come what may, faithfully. It is not just about him or her. Marriage is a synergy of outlined rules of love that works if worked on by him and her.